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Rules for being human

Uncategorized Jul 30, 2020

Rules for Being Human


  • You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.


  • You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full time informal school called life.  Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons.  You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid.


  • There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error experimentation.  The ‘failed’ experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that that ultimately ‘works’.


  • A lesson is repeated until it is learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it.  When you have learned it you can then go on to the next lesson.


  • Learning lessons does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons.  If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.


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Letting go of the past

past Feb 08, 2020

"Easier said than done"

I hear them crying out!

But they aren't saying anything!

Check out my latest recording on the subject of letting go of the past.


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Coaching versus therapy

coaching Feb 08, 2020

All too often in the field of coaching does the client mistake the coach for a psychotherapist. A therapist, by definition, is a practitioner that helps a client to ‘feel’ better through ‘healing’ or ‘curing’. This being the case of psycho-therapists who are charged with the responsibility of healing and curing the mind of its disorders, dysfunctions and/or dysphoria, often leads to confusion about the role of a life coach.

A coach, by definition, is a vehicle that transports from one place to another, meaning the Life Coach, is responsible for assisting or facilitating a client from where they are presently, to where the client wishes to be, a destination specified and agreed on by both from the initial engagement of coaching.

With these distinctions in mind, it is important for a coach not to fall into the realm of psychotherapy, which can often lead to being caught up in trying to ‘fix’ the client. From the perspective of a coach,...

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Forget that!

science Feb 05, 2020

Your memories were created and stored and remembered by you...

You took in what you needed to take in and recall what you believe you need to recall...

In neuroscience, we study ‘forgetting’ to understand how best to forget things...

Sometimes you need to inhibit and stop yourself doing certain behaviours that are harmful to you... ‘thinking’ is a behaviour... and some thinking isn’t helpful to you...

Too often do I hear people speak about their thinking as if it’s being done ‘to’ them by their brain as if it’s not their brain and they have no influence over what goes into it or what comes out of it... #passively living this way doesn’t seem to be a good thing...

If your mind isn’t yours, then whose is it?

In marketing meetings, the more intelligent beings understand that with a few minor tweaks to communication, the mass consumer mindset belongs to corporations and governments that know that people prefer...

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Is NLP scientific?

It’s been stated many times that the field of Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) has no substance and doesn’t have any scientific confirmation or support and in this short essay, I will demonstrate as an opener, just how nonsensical this claim is.

One of the most obvious responses, for me, to this question is “what specifically do you mean by NLP?” or “which aspect of NLP specifically?” The answer to this can lead to a useful discussion which can be researched and evidence provided for or against points of distinction. So with that in mind, I will just point to some of the more obvious contradictions to the belief held by many, that NLP cannot stand up to rigorous scientific analysis or research


There was a study carried out which provided that there was no correlation between eye movements and modalities of thought. This is a commonly cited study that critics of NLP use to generalise the claim that NLP has been ‘debunked’ and...

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Started my website today!

kajabi Nov 20, 2019

So happy, the journey begins now. Have been spending the day exploring and learning how all the features and buttons work so that i can get it up and running quickly!

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