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Uncategorized Mar 31, 2022

Your business and life are as they are now because of the variety of life choices you have made and continue to make.

If you want your situation to be different, you have to change something you are doing and make your operations different, so where to start?

Be realistic. One of the common errors people make when speaking about their problems is they over exaggerate what the problem is. I recently talked to an entrepreneur who told me that their business is making no money. On asking many questions and digging into the actual issues, it turned out that the company is making some money because they made two sales within the last month; however, this isn't enough money to sustain the business, and it's expensive. But using languaging such as the company is making no money is what was blocking the business owner from being able to look at the situation realistically and then move from, thereby creating a pathway to solutions.

Get at cause. Whatever is wrong with your business is a...

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Quitting my corporate Training job, money mindset shift

When I started being an entrepreneur last year, I had one mindset before, and I had another Mindset after.

And then, with the mindset that I had after, I made loads and loads of mistakes. And I kept losing money. I was losing hundreds; I was losing 1000s Because I didn't know what I was doing. And one of those mistakes that I made was I said in my marketing, "come and get coaching with me".

And in the beginning, I was like, oh yeah, just $100 an hour as American dollars. Some people wanted my coaching and who came along, saw my pricing on my website saying, um, $100, and they were like, "Is that all? Are you sure? 

Some people weren't laughing at me, and a few people helped me understand that people in America who are therapists and coaches, if they're charging $100 per hour, then that's the bargain. Basement bucket, chicken bucket, KFC press, McDonald's. That's the cheap people.

And then, at the opposite end of that to the extreme, you've got people charging...

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What is NLP?

An approach to modeling subjective experience

NLP started out as a mission shared by Richard Bandler & John Grinder. And even before that with Frank Pucilik and other names that have been lost to time and storytelling.

NLP went on to have multiple definitions depending on who a practitioner was trained by and when. Bandler is very much is chaos

Neuro-linguistic programming is a meta-discipline. This means at the highest level that it's an approach that allows the practitioner to look at other disciplines and 'model' the practices, beliefs, behaviors of others and how they do things subjectively.

At the lower levels of understanding, NLP =  sales skills, or coaching skills, or influencing skills...

But these are just skills and NLP isn't a skill.. it is the thing that modeled the skills.

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nlp self_sabotage Nov 23, 2021

Terms that may be useful to help you make a shift in your self-sabotage

  • Beliefs

embodied and cognitive Generalisations we make about the world and ourselves

  • Strategies

step by step sequences of behavior, both internal and external, which lead us to a particular outcome

  • States

Emotional, biological, and psychological moods can shift from one moment to the next. At any given moment, you are in a ‘state.’

  • Visual, auditory, kinaesthetic

Memories and experiences a stored inside our minds in terms of what we have seen, heard and felt.

  • Metaprogrammes

Unconscious programs that exist outside of our awareness OneDrive towards perceiving things in one way or another

  • Well-formed outcome

any future based result stated in the positive, genuinely wanted by the individual, specific in nature based on sensory evidence, and is within your power to achieve without the approval or assistance of others

  • Perceptual positions

when you look at something from your perspective,...

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Making changes

Uncategorized Oct 10, 2021

One of the things that I've realised is true to me during the pandemic is that I need to alter my environment according to the goals I am pursuing.

I am taking my company and the services I provide in a New Direction at the time of writing. I've been looking at all of the offers I present and the coaching service I offer, and I've made some significant realisations about what it is I'm not looking for 4vs what it is I am 

When you are making essential life changes, it can be imperative to make sure that you have decided on the identity you wish to adopt in the moments while changes are being made in line with the Robert Dilts model neurological levels.

The NL levels model demonstrates that if you change at the level of identity, you will impact your beliefs and values, capabilities and skills, behaviour on the inside and outside and the environment around you.

Many forget that the environment also includes the people you allow yourself F2 to share energy with and...

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pivot Aug 30, 2021

In the field of NLP I’ve always been interested in following the path set before us by the co-founders who made this field possible. What this means Is a consistent search for identifying geniuses and learning what I can from them in order to become as excellent as I can.

One of my biggest achievements in the NLP field Is being a speaker at international conferences. Being accepted to speak at events where I can be amongst some of the biggest names in the game, walking side by side with Robert Dilts discussing stuff over a coffee, asking L Michael Hall why he is so naughty and rebellious, meeting David Shepherd and asking him questions, getting close to Judith DeLozier and Judy Lowe to ask clean killer questions that help me understand a thing. Its like a kids chocolate factory, but for NLP excellence.

The pandemic ended my conference speaking career, so I decided to pivot into delivering online training. Spent most of the pandemic finding out how that all works and...

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Come Talk Sensory Game

learning/practice game Jul 01, 2021

Welcome to our sensory game! This game is one of the learning/practice game we play in our community to enhance our skills.

Here are some examples of common linguistic predicates from each of the representational sensory systems. By no means is this a comprehensive list and there are many more examples that you can use. See how many more you can come up with!

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Visual Auditory Kinesthetic
See Hear Feel
Look Listen Touch
View Sounds Grasp
Appears Make music Get hold of
Show Harmonize Slip through
Dawn In tune Catch on
Envision All ears Tap into
Illuminate Rings a bell Make contact
Imagine Silence Throw out
Clear Be heard Turn around
Foggy Resonate Hard
Focused Deaf Concrete
Hazy Mellifluous Scrape
Crystal Dissonance Get a handle
Picture Unhearing Solid
Shine Loud Relaxed
Reveal Tell Cool
Dim Tune in/out Heavy
Vision Talk Smooth
Watch Outspoken Rub
Flash Be all ears Impression
  Snap Pushy
  Speak Suffer
  Echo  
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Big Moves

Uncategorized Jun 24, 2021

BIG goals are the kind of goals that you set for yourself with are totally possible, but the very thought of them create a fearful feeling inside you.

At the time of writing, I have just set a goal to pop over to the United States of American to search for my long-lost uncle, whilst visiting some of my business associates over there. I have not wanted to visit before. 

The very fact that I had a weird feeling come up for me, was even more motivation for me to practice what I preach and do something about it, so I am currently doing all the things I need to do to be ecological about creating changes in my life so that I can get on with going on a magical adventure on which I can make a few dreams come true.

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Goals

Uncategorized Jun 16, 2021
 
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Mental Health-Strategies To Stay on Track

mentalhealth podcast Feb 03, 2021
 

Keep calm and carry on…

 

What is "Keep calm and carry on"…

 

What strategies do you use to make sure that your mental health stays on track?

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